Accepting myself has never been easy. Getting to the point where I truly feel that I am enough is the greatest act of love I’ve given myself. And once I started to feel this within me, the way I relate to others began to change.
We don’t give what we receive, because our needs are different. The other person can’t give us something that already exists within us, because the sense of “receiving” disappears when that something is already there.
And yet, if I simply offer what is natural to me, it might be exactly what the other person needs. In the same way, they can offer what is natural to them, and that can become what I need. This is where I see the beauty. The other person is perfect as they are. They don’t have to do anything special, just be. Because the moment they try to become something else, they lose that very naturalness I was drawn to in the first place.
This is how a sense of completion appears in a relationship.
But if I look deeper, I can see that these are just mechanisms meeting and responding to each other. Two minds that we call “us.” I feel, I want, I need, when in reality it’s just a mechanism in motion. A thought appears, then the “I” appears, and this is how the illusion we live in is created.
Mechanisms arise on their own. But the moment you see them, a space for choice appears. And from that space, a relationship can be lived consciously, not just repeated.
And this is what it means to be human.
Freedom is to see all of this, and still allow yourself to be human. To be human means to consciously feel everything that comes and goes. Both pleasant and unpleasant, because it’s not always comfortable.
But who decides what is pleasant or not? The mind.
So even this commentary of the mind is part of the dance of life expressing itself through you, through me.
There is nothing magical about it. It’s just reality. Clear, simple, real.