No one can tell you that what you experience is not real. The experience itself is real and unique, a personal manifestation of infinity. Regardless of the explanations a psychologist might give you—saying your mind makes you feel this way because of childhood traumas—or the justifications of a doctor attributing it to hallucinations caused by lack of oxygen or other medical issues, all these are merely external interpretations. Setting these explanations aside, what remains is the pure perception of your experience, a reality that cannot be denied or replicated by anyone else.
What you feel about a shared experience is unique because you are unique. You are the result of a one-of-a-kind journey, and your perception of an experience is equally distinctive. Therefore, your feelings cannot be contradicted by anyone. Someone might have felt something similar, but never the same as you.
People should be more tolerant, understanding this fact. All those who explain different paths to "enlightenment" are simply describing their own experiences because they, too, are unique. Similarly, you have your own unique path. For this reason, their words should not be taken literally but rather as guidelines to help you find your own way. Moreover, do not take anything someone else says as absolute truth, as it may not suit you. Stay open, listen, and explore. When you feel that something resonates with you, take a step forward.
Understanding what uniqueness truly means brings great clarity to many aspects of life, including why people argue so often. Each person is merely expressing their own reality, while the other refuses to accept it—when, in truth, it doesn’t need to be fully understood. Many things cannot be understood simply because you haven’t lived through them, but you can still accept them. You can understand that the other person has reached their conclusions through a unique sequence of experiences.
Thus, contradictory discussions are often absurd. You can argue over objective subjects, such as mathematics, physics, or chemistry, but never about a topic involving perception—such as feelings, intuition, or personal vision.
Uniqueness is something universal. Judging an African for walking around unclothed is like judging a Martian for eating with their nose. How do you know how they were created? Who are you to judge? Did you create them? Are you in their place?
By understanding uniqueness in its true sense, by deeply feeling this concept, you open a door to discovering your own identity. You are something unique, something waiting to be discovered. Opening your heart and mind is the greatest gift you can give yourself. In doing so, you will discover yourself in every moment.
Rejoice in what you think, feel, and do, and observe yourself. This is your role—to be the witness of your own existence, without judgment. The moment you begin to judge yourself—thinking you are bad, that you lie, that you are jealous, or that you make mistakes—you stop observing yourself. At that moment, you spiritually fall asleep, and automatic mechanisms take over.
To truly observe yourself means to accept what you discover and to celebrate your uniqueness, exactly as you are.